Comments, even joking ones, along these lines cause an instant reaction, and not a good one. Any one of these can trigger almost instantaneous anger, emotional shutdown or a panic attack... or all of the above.
- Joking about the length of an email that I send
- Commenting that my feelings about something aren't appropriate
- Joking comments about something that is special or important to me
- Being angry at me
5 comments:
Gee - I hope that anything that I said has not upset you... though I do imagine it is probable with my constant foolish wordplay.
But really, the thing I try to remember it that EVERYONE has only one point of view - their own! When I realized that I stopped reacting to other people as if they had directly insulted me somehow.
Yes, that means at times I am truly obtuse and I do miss the ACTUAL insults hurled my way... but, I find, THAT character flaw far better than making myself crazy over falsely perceived slights.
P.S. With all that being said, I guess it is appropriate that my "word verification" almost reads BIGMOUTH (bigamout)-hah!
Gee - I'm with Marty: I'm hoping I haven't hurt you.
The one thing that has helped me desensitize is to trust that there is always a good intention.
I always try to remember that a feeling is ALWAYS true. It just exists, and is a feeling. There are no values attached to it, no morals, and it cant be judged. It just is.
Oh, don't worry, it's no one in particular... and it's most often those I am closest too.
@ GM - I may see the intention, and that can help me get over the reaction more quickly, but I've not yet found that it helps prevent it from happening.
I hate feeling this way.
Details. . . . email me. Been here before. Sometimes I go back there.
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